The following Letter to the Editor was published by PBHG Chief Executive Officer Mary Pat Angelini in response to the recent violence across our country.

Dear Editor:

The tragic events of the last few weeks have taken their toll on all of us. Horrifying images, hate-filled rhetoric, and unimaginable violence have resulted in feelings of frustration, fear, stress, anxiety, anger, sadness, and more. These symptoms are part of experiencing trauma – events that cause feelings of helplessness – and we don’t have to be part of the actual event to feel the trauma. We struggle with making sense of senselessness, trying to figure out how to talk to our children and grandchildren, and wanting to help but not knowing how.

Finding what works best for you is the key to moving forward. It is okay to feel sad and angry, and we should take the time we need to grieve for lives lost and families in pain. It’s a good time to work on taking care of your physical and emotional needs, getting and giving support to your loved ones, and exploring ways to feel more empowered. Advocate in whatever form is comfortable for you and speak up for what you believe. Talk, share, and most importantly, be a good listener.

If your feelings are overwhelming and you are not finding relief, there is professional help available. Contact your local mental health provider and if you are here in Monmouth and Ocean counties, Preferred Behavioral Health Group can help. We offer outpatient therapy for adults and children and can be reached at 732-367-4700 or www.preferredbehavioral.org. Seeking help is a courageous step – mental health IS health – and getting help for emotional trauma is just as important as getting help for a physical ailment. 

Finally, try to be kind. Everyone comes from a different place, everyone has struggles beneath the surface we know nothing about, and we are all joined by our collective humanity.

Mary Pat Angelini, CEO