The following Letter to the Editor was written by PBHG Chief Executive Officer Mary Pat Angelini and published in the Asbury Park Press and the Ocean Star in response to the recent violence across our country.

Dear Editor:

UFC fighter Paddy Pimblett was interviewed following his recent winning match against American Jordan Leavitt. Instead of glorifying his victory, he spoke about the loss of one of his friends who had died by suicide the night before. It was all the more powerful because he spoke of the stigma faced by men to talk about mental health:

“Listen, if you’re a man and you’ve got weight on your shoulders and you think the only way you can solve it is by killing yourself, please speak to someone, speak to anyone…I know I’d rather have my mate cry on my shoulder than go to his funeral next week.” 

UFC FIGHTER PADDY PIMBLETT

Those of us in the mental health profession work diligently to end the stigma of mental illness and substance abuse. We encourage candid conversations and reaching out for help; but words from athletes and public figures go a long way to helping to bring about the open conversations that are necessary to avoid tragedy.

We can all help to end this stigma. Speak out about mental health and substance use topics. Pay attention to signals from others that they may be hurting. Reach out with compassion and understanding. Listen. Be there. You can make a difference.

For mental health and substance use resources and support in Monmouth and Ocean counties, call us at 732.367.4700.

Mary Pat Angelini, Chief Executive Officer, Preferred Behavioral Health Care

Preferred Behavioral Health Group is a non-profit organization offering prevention, education, support, and treatment for children and adults in all stages of life. As a Certified Community Behavioral Health Center, PBHG uses a trauma-informed, integrated approach to healthcare, focusing on both the physical and emotional needs of each individual.