January 2025

By Sandra C. Grebel, MSW, LCSW, BCD Vice President, Children and Family Services, Preferred Behavioral Health Group February 6 marks Safer Internet Day, a global event celebrated in over 180 countries to promote safer and more responsible use of online technology. At Preferred Behavioral Health Group (PBHG), we see firsthand the challenges that today’s youth face in navigating the digital landscape. While the internet and social media offer incredible opportunities for connection, education, and creativity, they also present unique risks to mental health and well-being. The Hidden Impact of Cyberbullying Unlike traditional bullying, cyberbullying can follow individuals anywhere, making it a persistent and often invisible threat. Many of the young people we work with at PBHG report feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression stemming from online harassment. Tips to Protect Yourself: Privacy Matters: Guarding Your Personal Information Sharing too much online can open the door to privacy violations and identity theft, leading to stress and anxiety. Even well-meaning posts can expose sensitive information to the wrong people. Tips to Protect Yourself: The Mental Health Toll of Constant Comparison Social media often showcases curated and idealized versions of life, making it easy to fall into the trap of unhealthy comparisons. This can lead to low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, and increased anxiety. Tips to Protect Yourself: Taking Digital Breaks: Why It’s Essential Excessive screen time can contribute to mental fatigue, difficulty concentrating, and overall stress. Disconnecting from digital devices, even briefly, can significantly improve your mental health. Tips to Protect Yourself: PBHG: Supporting Youth in a Digital World At PBHG, we are dedicated to addressing the challenges of digital life through our NJ4S Compass,  Prevention First Programs, and Preferred Center for Children and Families Programs. These initiatives provide educational resources, training sessions, and clinical support tailored to the needs of children, adolescents, and families in Ocean and Monmouth Counties. From workshops on online safety to individual counseling, our programs are designed to help youth thrive both online and offline. As U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy highlighted in his 2023 advisory on social media and youth mental health, the developing brains of adolescents are particularly vulnerable to the effects of excessive social media use. PBHG is here to guide families through these challenges, equipping them with tools to foster resilience and emotional well-being. Key Takeaways for Safer Internet Use On this Safer Internet Day, let’s commit to creating a safer and healthier online environment. By taking proactive steps to protect our mental health and personal information, we can harness the benefits of the digital world while minimizing its risks. If you or someone you know needs support, PBHG is here to help. Contact us to learn more about our programs and services—together, we can build a brighter, safer future for the next generation.

As schools across New Jersey consider banning cell phones from classrooms, experts are weighing in on the potential benefits of such a policy. Recently, Dr. Tara Chalakani, a child mental health expert and CEO of PBHG, shared her insights on the positive impact this change could have on students, particularly in terms of their social development and mental well-being. Governor Phil Murphy’s recent call for a statewide ban on cell phones in K-12 classrooms sparked considerable discussion. The proposed ban aims to reduce distractions in the classroom and improve learning outcomes. But beyond academic performance, experts like Dr. Chalakani are focusing on the broader implications for student health—especially as children and adolescents recover from the emotional toll of the COVID-19 pandemic. Social Reconnection After the Pandemic In an interview on NJ 12 News discussing the potential effects of the ban, Dr. Chalakani emphasized the crucial role of social interaction in a child’s development. The isolation caused by COVID-19 and the shift to online learning significantly disrupted traditional socialization for students. As a result, many children struggled with loneliness, anxiety, and difficulty forming or maintaining friendships. Dr. Chalakani noted that banning cell phones in the classroom could provide an opportunity for students to rebuild these essential connections. Without the distraction of mobile devices, students would be more likely to engage in spontaneous conversations, collaborate on projects, and learn important interpersonal skills. This type of social engagement is key for developing emotional intelligence, empathy, and resilience—skills that are vital as students transition back to a more normal school environment after years of disruption. A Step Toward Long-Term Well-being Looking ahead, Dr. Chalakani stressed that the cellphone ban is not just a temporary fix but a long-term solution to improving both social and mental well-being in schools. By implementing policies that limit cellphone use in schools, educators and policymakers can help foster an environment where students are more focused, more connected to their peers, and better equipped to handle the pressures of modern life.  For a more in-depth understanding of how the cellphone ban could benefit students socially and mentally, Dr. Chalakani encourages viewers to watch the full video interview. Her expert insights provide valuable perspective on the far-reaching implications of this policy change for young people’s lives. If you or someone you know is struggling with kids and the effects of cell phone use, contact us today.

As the New Year rolls in, many people are setting resolutions to improve their health and well-being. One of the most popular New Year’s resolutions is participating in Dry January, an alcohol-free challenge that has grown in popularity over the past several years. Dr. Chalakani recently appeared on the NJ Morning Show on ONNJ to discuss the origins of Dry January, its rise in the U.S., and the health benefits that come with taking a break from alcohol. The Origins of Dry January Dry January, as Dr. Chalakani shared, began in the UK in 2013. It was originally introduced as a health campaign to encourage people to take a month off from drinking after the holiday season. Over time, it gained significant traction and began spreading across the globe, including to the United States. Today, Dry January has become a mainstream activity, with millions of people participating in the challenge each year. It serves as a chance to reset after the holiday season, reflect on personal health goals, and experience firsthand the many benefits of reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption for 31 days. Aligning Dry January with New Year’s Resolutions Dr. Chalakani emphasized how Dry January fits perfectly into the mindset of New Year’s resolutions, which are often centered around self-improvement, healthier habits, and setting new goals. Many people start the year with resolutions to exercise more, eat healthier, or break unhealthy habits—and abstaining from alcohol for a month aligns perfectly with these intentions. By making a commitment to take a break from alcohol, participants can not only boost their physical health but also set the tone for positive changes throughout the year. Health Benefits of Dry January Taking a break from alcohol during Dry January offers a wide range of health benefits, some of which people might not realize until they experience them firsthand. Dr. Chalakani highlighted several key benefits that can make Dry January a rewarding challenge: Dry January: A Flexible Approach Dr. Chalakani also pointed out that Dry January doesn’t have to mean a complete month without alcohol. For some people, that might not be realistic or necessary. If the idea of giving up alcohol entirely for a month seems overwhelming, consider cutting back by drinking less frequently or only abstaining on certain days of the week. For example, you might choose not to drink on weekends or only skip alcohol one day a week. This approach can still provide many of the same health benefits, without the pressure of committing to an all-or-nothing challenge. One of the key strategies for success in Dry January is having a buddy system in place. Dr. Chalakani recommends teaming up with a friend or family member to support one another throughout the month. Not only does this create accountability, but it also makes the experience more enjoyable. Plus, swapping out your usual cocktails for fun, flavorful mocktails is a great way to still feel like you’re part of the social scene without the alcohol. When Dry January Isn’t for You While Dry January can be a powerful tool for many people, Dr. Chalakani was clear that it’s not for everyone. If you typically drink more than 3-4 alcoholic beverages a day, Dry January may not be the best approach for you. People who drink at higher levels should consider professional detox programs to ensure a safe and supportive transition to sobriety. For those who are concerned about their alcohol consumption, seeking guidance from a healthcare professional or counselor is always a good idea. Conclusion: Take the First Step Towards Better Health Whether you’re aiming to improve your liver health, boost your mood, lose weight, or reduce your cancer risk, Dry January offers a great opportunity to kickstart your health goals for the year. As Dr. Chalakani pointed out, even a small change can have a big impact on your well-being. If you’re ready to make a positive change in your life, click the video to hear more from Dr. Chalakani on how Dry January can work for you and why it’s worth considering as part of your New Year’s resolution. Don’t wait – take the first step toward a healthier you today!

At PBHG, we understand the immense challenges and emotional strain that come with supporting a loved one struggling with substance use. Watching someone you care about face the hardships of a Substance Use Disorder (SUD) can leave you feeling helpless, confused, and even overwhelmed. It can be difficult to know how best to offer your support, or even where to begin. But it’s important to remember that your care, patience, and understanding can have a profound impact on their journey toward recovery. This guide is designed to help you recognize the signs of substance use and provide you with practical, compassionate steps to offer the support your loved one needs while also caring for yourself during this trying time. Remember, you are not alone and we are here to help every step of the way! Recognizing the Signs of Substance Use We know that identifying substance use in a loved one isn’t always straightforward. Here are common indicators we have found: While these signs may indicate substance use, they can also be symptoms of other underlying issues. Approach your loved one with care and avoid making immediate assumptions. How to Offer Support When you suspect a loved one is struggling with substance use, your response can influence their willingness to seek help. Here are actionable tips we have found that help guide you through this difficult season: 1. Educate Yourself 2. Choose the Right Time to Talk 3. Express Concern, Not Judgment 4. Listen Without Interruption 5. Offer Help Without Enabling 6. Be Patient 7. Encourage Professional Support 8. Take Care of Yourself Avoid Common Pitfalls Resources for Immediate Help If your loved one is in immediate danger, contact emergency services. For non-emergencies, these resources can provide guidance: Resources for Long-Term Support At PBHG, we are proud to be a trusted local resource for individuals and families navigating the challenges of substance use recovery. As a trauma-informed organization, we understand the deep impact that substance use can have on both individuals and their loved ones, and we are dedicated to providing compassionate, evidence-based care every step of the way. Last year alone, we served over 27,000 individuals, offering support, resources, and guidance to help them on their journey toward long-term recovery. If you or your loved one are in need of ongoing support, we are here to help and provide the care necessary for sustained healing: Final Thoughts We know that supporting a loved one through substance use disorder is a compassionate yet complex journey. By recognizing the signs, approaching them with empathy, and encouraging professional help, you can be a pivotal part of their path to recovery. Remember, while you can’t make decisions for them, your support can inspire hope and change. Contact us today to have us help you taking the first steps.